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  Need Some Tough Love & Help

  by Simon Morley in

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  not sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.

  yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.

  i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.

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  fakesmile: I see. I did not get into any heated words - I just apologized and tried to keep the peace as I am sure as hell not going to any hotel tonight . I would not be bothered if she was doing it (I guess easy for me to say) - nor does it mean I love her any less
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  Need Some Tough Love & Help

  by Simon Morley in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  not sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.

  yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.

  i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.

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  Avoiding is going to have to be route. Any ideas what worked for those who had an uphill battle with their wife?
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  Need Some Tough Love & Help

  by Simon Morley in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  not sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.

  yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.

  i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.

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  Fakesmile: I would love to take that route with her - but she would taken my gondads off in a blink of an eye right now.
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  Need Some Tough Love & Help

  by Simon Morley in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  not sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.

  yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.

  i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.

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  fakesmile: She did try repeatedly, It was not her. Plus I was a hypocrite.

  I really need to win her trust back - long and hard road I know - but what works to do that? let the dust settle? she feels horribly betrayed.
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  Need Some Tough Love & Help

  by Simon Morley in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  not sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.

  yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.

  i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.

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  I see, I guess I dont blame here for doing that. I have shamed her in a way. She is even madder that I am was an elder with a dirty secret....
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  Need Some Tough Love & Help

  by Simon Morley in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  not sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.

  yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.

  i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.

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  mrsjones5: She has never viewed a site and she feesl that we have been living a lie and that we should not keep it form our dughter.
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  Need Some Tough Love & Help

  by Simon Morley in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  not sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.

  yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.

  i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.

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  Not sure how to approach this but here goes.....My wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight. Yes, I was going to them, and I was foolish to think I could never get caught. I have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times. Yes, even while I was an elder (hence I would find a way to avoid both talks on the matter and dealing with anyone as an elder). Yes I am a huge Hypocrite - with a capital "H".

  My daughter is in her mid thirties, I know she will be devastated when she finds out - she always thought that while we were JW's that I tried to be different - really I am no different and so face the consequences.

  So needless to say I have a huge hole to dig myself out of. My wife is really, really angry saying she could handle adultery better and wants me out of the house and her life. We have been married for almost 40 years, I don t want to give up on that but know I have horribly let her down in the biggest way possible - betrayal, lies and loss of trust. So I am turing to my only friends I have and ask is there anyone that has been in the same boat and what worked or did not work in the early days to rebuild the trust? To the dear women we have on this site - what did you do when you found out your hubby or boyfriend was looking at porn?

  If there is a great possibility I am facing the rest of my life without my family - be honest with me. I need it, but I need them even if I have been a complete selfish pr%&k.
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  The January 1st Watchtower Admits That JWs Have Been Wrong As To Their Expectations Of The End!...but

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  they excuse it by saying, it's ok since at least they were on the watch.. i believe they should think about god's view of watchmen who constantly gave false pronouncements.

  they would be judged accordingly by god!.

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  Pixel: You are right - plus they were chastized for doing so by Jesus if you read the account early in the book of Acts.
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  The January 1st Watchtower Admits That JWs Have Been Wrong As To Their Expectations Of The End!...but

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  they excuse it by saying, it's ok since at least they were on the watch.. i believe they should think about god's view of watchmen who constantly gave false pronouncements.

  they would be judged accordingly by god!.

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  It is one thing to say you were wrong when only you were the person hurt by the error; it is entirely different when you misled thousands and thousands. You are culpable according to natural law and thus accountable for your error. This was not a harmless mere simple mistake. By their own rules they are unrepentant as the "degree of deviation should be commensurate with the degree of regret". I do not see anything remotely resembling the regret over the harm caused.
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  RIP Sir Patrick Moore

  by Chariklo in

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  very, very sad to learn of the death of sir patrick moore.

  i've been following his programme the sky at night ever since the first one.

  he started my lifelong interest in astronomy, and is partly responsible for my sons' careers.. wonderful enthusiasm!.

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  He was incredible during the Apollo mission to the moon in the late 60's. He was so excited, animated and made astronomy easily understood, he thrilled us with his boyish enthusiasm. The joke was that the reason NASA cancelled the Apollo program was because Sir Patrick had a heart rate on 100 on the last Apollo 17 mission!! RIP Patrick, you will be missed.